Recovery at the Farm
We’re here! Red Gate Farm, at last.
Well, I misspeak. There is no Red Gate. We are at Farm. I’ll explain.
On May 15, at 4:38 p.m., a tornado ripped through our town, for apparently about 10 heart-stopping, tree-felling, havoc-wreaking minutes. Hundreds of trees were ripped, with their roots, from the ground. Cars were crushed, houses demolished, roads blocked, wires destroyed, power out. Our little bit of paradise was not immune.
We received photographs in London that just broke our hearts. A tree fell across the road, crashing into our beloved old tree that had held Avery’s childhood swing. That tree in turn fell into our front-room window, and onto the chimney, which then let go its capstone to crash into the roof, breaking the surface of the shingles in several places (leaky kitchen roof, as we discovered during yesterday’s rainstorm). Most pathetically, the Red Gate was completely destroyed.
So when we arrived two weeks ago, instead of our idyllic, peaceful, nothing-bad-ever-happens-here paradise, we found this.
But let’s concentrate on the positives: our intrepid neighbors Mark, Konnie, Terry, Regina and Egbert, Mike… they simply descended on Farm in our absence and rescued her as best they could. Tarpaulin on the roof, boarded-up window, the logs cut up and carried away. The Treeman came and took away Avery’s swing tree (the stump removal will come later). We can never, never thank each and every person enough who came over and spent days and days cleaning up on our behalf.
I don’t know why I find it so disconsolate to arrive to a terrace and pathways choked with weeds, but I do.
So the first morning, recovering from jetlag at 6 a.m., John and I were hard at work with just my fingers and his leafblower. Several sweaty hours later, we were rewarded.
John moved wood-chip piles (thinking thankfully every moment that some kind soul had taken the time to reduce a fallen tree to such manageable proportions), I picked up endless piles of sticks, we filled the bird-feeders and welcomed dear, dear Jacque, the fence-whisperer.
Jacque brings a compelling generosity to his work, really a spiritual connection to restoring something precious from the past. He seemed unperturbed, un-frustrated that all his hard work from two summers ago, bringing the fence back to life, had been destroyed in ten minutes. “I will enjoy revisiting this beautiful, peaceful place,” he said calmly, with his measuring tapes and twinkling eyes. We are grateful.
We raked up more woodchips, revealing fragile grasses beneath. There were several days of steady, heartening, summer rain, the kind that makes you think you can see the grass grow and the hydrangea blossom before your eyes.
The old lawn guys had heartlessly abandoned us, seeing how distressed our property looked, so we found new lawn guys. They made everything beautiful, once again, although it is taking some time to get used to the loss of Avery’s “swing tree.”
I rearranged the bedroom! John is quite right in objecting to every flat surface, including the floor, being covered with books, so I scooped up a particularly spidery, dusty pile from the bedroom floor and arranged them on the chest, first emptying said chest of unwanted clothes and donating them to Goodwill. Everything in the bedroom looks so cosy and tidy now!
Visitors have come, in all their heartwarming glory. Jill and her family! (I was so relieved that the girls wanted the trampoline out; what if they had outgrown it? They hadn’t. We hauled it out of its spidery barn in the heat.)
We sat down to a delicious dinner of sous-vide, then barbecued, burgers on my homemade potato rolls.
Those rolls! The caprese salad!
We sat down to eat.
“Do you think it’s going to rain” Jill asked casually.
“No, I’m sure we’ll get through dinner. It’s so lovely out here! Besides, look how pretty the table looks,” I said gamely.
We took two bites. The heavens opened!
“It’s tradition!” shouted Joel, carrying platters and holding the door open. That’s what I love about Joel: something happens once, and the next time it’s tradition. It’s not annoying or inconvenient, it’s tradition! Inside we went.
It is such a relief to know that family can reunite, that nothing ever changes, no matter how tall the girls get. Jane, stop growing, please!
I worry sometimes that the glory days of Red Gate Farm are in the past: the years when the house was filled with children rushing about in bathing suits, Avery making paper dolls to string up in her bedroom, the slip ‘n slide in the yard. But then I realise that Avery will eventually rediscover Red Gate Farm as an adult, a place to come and escape from stressful city life. A place filled with wonderful memories for us all.
Then, on a particularly hot and humid (perfect) afternoon, up popped dear, dear Felicity and her family!
Remember them from our last visit, the random knitting rescue/apple-cake gift?
Oh, that cake.
This time we were joined by Felicity’s mother and new baby, Charlotte Grace. What a little ginger snap, as her grandfather calls her.
Susan embodies grandmotherhood. Competent, calm, affectionate, appreciative.
There aren’t enough hours to trade stories with these friends. Everyone this summer has stories of the storm, but Susan’s of her husband takes the cake. A tree fell onto his car with him in it. He is unharmed, but he came home to find windshield glass in his trouser pockets.
Mark has been by, of course, to tell tales of the storm and its aftermath, to shrug off thanks for his incredible generosity in the wake of the tornado, his stalwart presence during those first fragile days assessing the damage. He’s more comfortable feeding his cows than accepting praise.
He actually talks to them, calls them by name — Brisket, Guinness, Shamrock. You can see they are listening! Mark is pure gold. “How are you, dear?” he asks me. I loved being called “dear” by Mark.
John has been hard at work finalising Potters Fields details, at his “summer office.”
The view is very distracting, in my opinion. I just keep looking up, appreciating the birdsong from the finch feeder, watching the chipmunks chase each other through the grass, watching bluejays land on the birdbath, squirrels swaying perilously in the trees above, overhead. Just lovely.
Judy pops by, her first visit since losing Rollie. She is unchanged, loving and funny and cheerful. It is such fun to spend an unexpected hour, in the middle of the day, gossiping, telling tales of London life, reminiscing about Rollie.
She comes bearing gifts! Her mother’s blueberry cake, a definite must for Volume Two. It is tart, soft, unsweet. Perfect. When I get the recipe, I will share.
Perhaps the most glorious discovery of this summer is the Dollar Tree, a place of untold mercantile delights.
In this Shangri-la, one can acquire — for a dollar, mind you — wooden spoons, egg noodles, gift ribbons, bleach, pizza crust, single servings of tuna and crackers, tissue paper, bird, cat and dog food, ibuprofen, suntan oil, laundry detergent, sidewalk chalk, pregnancy tests, hacksaws, hand wipes specially for “boogers”, Viennese hot dogs in cans, sparklers, grass seed and Italian seasoning. It is heaven on earth.
When not browsing the aisles of the Dollar Tree in search of original flavour “Bugles,” or birthday cards, I’ve naturally been cooking up a storm. There is a new potato salad in our repertoire! The addition of tender summer corn is a very good idea.
Red Gate Farm Potato Salad
(serves 6)
1 1/2lb/3/4 kilo small, new, or Jersey Royal potatoes
1/2 red onion, chopped fine
1 stalk lemongrass, chopped fine
1 ear cooked or raw corn, kernels chopped off
handful fresh dill, chopped
handful fresh chives, chopped
zest of 1 lemon
juice of 1 lemon
1/2 cup/64g mayonnaise
fresh black pepper
Maldon salt to taste
Steam the potatoes until tender, about 20 minutes. Cut each in half and place in a large bowl. Sprinkle over all the other ingredients up to the lemon juice. Combine lemon juice with the remaining ingredients and toss together with the potatoes until thoroughly mixed.
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We’ve been deep-frying everything under the sun, because WE CAN. Butterflied shrimp was divine.
Butterflied Fried Shrimp
(serves 4)
1 lb/1/2 kilo big raw shrimp, shell on
1/2 cup/64g all-purpose flour
1 egg, beaten
1/3 cup/ 42g Panko breadcrumbs
1/3 cup/42g cornmeal
1/3 cup/42g Matzoh meal
1 tsp paprika
1 tsp garlic powder
fresh black pepper
Peel off all but the tail of the shrimp shells. The tails are perfect handles! Using kitchen scissors, cut up the back of each shrimp as deeply as you can without splitting them.
Mix together the Panko, cornmeal, Matzoh, and seasonings in a large, shallow bowl.
Put the flour, egg, and crust mixture into three separate, shallow bowls. Dip each shrimp first into the flour, then the egg, then the crust mixture Set aside whilst you heat your oil. When a bit of breadcrumb tossed into the oil fries immediately, you are ready. In batches of about 5 shrimps at a time, deep-fry for 1 1/2 minutes, then lift out onto paper towel with a wire basket with a handle. Serve with spicy mayo.
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John has, of course, been sous-viding everything that doesn’t run away in time. The best suggestion, made by my friend Orlando, has been burgers. You’d fear — or at least, I did — that they would get smushed in the plastic-bag process, but no: instead of vacuum-packing them, you go for the “displacement” theory.
Sous-vide Burgers on Potato Rowils
(serves 6)
3 lbs/1.4 kilos beef (either ground, or ground at home, as you like)
6 tbsps duck fat, goose fat, or butter
Fox Point Seasoning, or just Maldon salt and fresh black pepper
Simply place each burger in a ziplock plastic bag, add a tablespoon of your chosen fat. Add seasonings and lower the bag, unclosed, into the water bath just with the ziplock above the water surface. The air will magically disappear, and you can seal the bag.
Sous vide the burgers at least 45 minutes at 54 degrees Fahrenheit/12 Celsius, or up to two hours. Finish on the grill or in a frying pan. Serve with “Potato Rowils.” So-called, obviously because of Sinamin Rowils.
I’m going to give you my dear friend Orlando’s exact instructions here, just because I love to hear the sound of his “voice” when I read his recipe. He’s very discursive and explanatory, but it is a simple, forgiving, fool-proof, delicious recipe.
Potato Rowils
(makes 8 large or 12 small)
About 400g potatoes, peeled and cut up
2tbsp butter
12oz bread flour
1 sachet instant yeast (or 30g fresh yeast)
1tbsp sugar
1tsp salt
1 egg, plus another for glazing
Boil the potatoes in water — no salt — until soft. Measure out 5tbsp of hot potato water into a bowl, and drain the potatoes. You want them quite dry, so return to the pan and shake about over a medium heat so they steam and dry off a bit. Mash thoroughly and measure out one cup of mash, packing it very firmly into the cup. (Note: I have broken TWO cup measures doing this, so perhaps don’t do it too firmly.) (Discard remaining potato or use in a soup.) Stir in the butter till melted.
A stand mixer such as a Kitchen Aid is best for the next step. Put the mash, which should be warm (but no longer actually hot), in the mixer bowl and stir in the flour, yeast, sugar and salt on low speed. Now add the egg and the reserved potato water. (If you forgot or lost the potato water, no big deal, just use warm water). Mix for 5–10 minutes until you have a soft, slightly sticky dough. If the dough is alarmingly sticky, add more flour, 1tbsp at a time. (Sometimes when making this the whole procedure seems to have been sticky. This isn’t the end of the world — in fact the resulting rolls will be super-soft and tender — but it doesn’t make handling the dough very pleasant and can lead to feelings of panic.)
Spray or oil the dough in the bowl and roll it about so it makes a rough, oily ball, cover and allow to rise for about 45 minutes to an hour. When it has doubled, weigh the dough (in grams is easiest) and divide by 12. Pat the dough out on your work surface — you may or may not need flour to stop it sticking — and divide into 12 pieces.
Line a baking sheet with baking paper. Flouring your hands etc if necessary, roll each ball into a ball, smooth and taut as possible, and place seam side down on the baking sheet. Continue with other balls. I like to space the rolls about 3cm apart, so they join up when rising and baking, but you can keep them separate if you prefer.
Cover with greased plastic film and let rise until doubled — about 45 minutes. Heat oven to 210C/190 fan. Just before baking, brush the rolls with an egg which you have beaten with a pinch of salt and splash of water. Bake for about 12–15 minutes (turning tin at half time), till deep golden in colour.
(An alternative to the egg glaze is to brush the rolls with melted butter, which can be done before baking, at half time and after baking. Well, why wouldn’t you?)
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And corn on the cob! I make it a point in July and August in Connecticut to eat corn on the cob at least once a day. Obviously there is the time-honoured method of buying it at the very best farmer’s market or farm stand, in our case Starchek’s in Southbury…
Then it’s a matter of simply pulling off the silks, racing the cobs to a pot of vigorously boiling water, and cooking them for 4 minutes.
But there’s also corn chowder!
Corn Chowder
(serves 4)
2 tbsps butter
1 carrot, diced
1 white onion, chopped fine
3 cloves garlic, chopped fine
2 sticks celery, chopped fine
6 ears raw corn, kernels scraped off
3 stems fresh thyme, leaves only
4 cups light cream or half and half
handful chives, chopped fine
fresh black pepper and Maldon salt to taste
Melt the butter and sweat the vegetables, up to and including the fresh thyme, until soft. Add the cream and warm through. Top with the chives and season.
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And there’s scalloped corn!
Scalloped Corn
(serves four easily)
6 ears cooked corn
four cloves garlic, chopped fine
half pint light cream
1 cup fresh breadcrumbs
3 tbsps melted butter
1/2 cup grated pecorino or parmesan cheese
Spray a nice casserole dish (I used a pretty oval Pyrex one) with nonstick cooking spray, or butter it. Sprinkle the garlic over the bottom of the dish. Cut the kernels off the ears of corn (be sure to gather up the few racy kernels who will fly off onto the counter top) and sprinkle them onto the garlic, taking care to separate the long rows should they stick together. Pour the cream over all the kernels evenly, then toss the bread crumbs in the melted butter and fluff them up. Spread evenly over the corn and then sprinkle the cheese over all. Bake at 425F/220C for about 30 minutes or until bubbly.
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As a reward for all my hard work, Becky appeared in our little bend of the road and my, we had fun. We did nothing but talk, really, for three wonderful days, catching up as we try to do whenever we are together.
Hearing all about the exploits of her three daughters, Avery’s boon companions during our London years, was a complete joy. How does one family produce an ace accountant, an elementary school teacher, and a musical theatre star? She couldn’t get enough of Avery’s news. We shared a great many stories, and then the Lyons came to dinner to meet her, with THEIR three small, completely beguiling children.
And the following evening, when we were meant to go to Jane’s softball match but it was rained out, we had to come up with something for dinner on the spur of the moment, Becky casually mentioned, “I could make you my Southern Tomato Pie…” This was so very reminiscent of years ago, when Becky casually mentioned, “I could make you my Cheesey Potatoes…” Of course, the rest is history.
Now while I don’t yet have the official Becky recipe, I can tell you briefly how to achieve it.
Lay a pre-made piecrust in a round tin and prick it all over with a fork. Bake according to package instructions. Meanwhile, slice three ripe tomatoes and lay them on paper towels to absorb any extra juice. Chop 1/2 large white onion and, when the crust is baked, scatter them on the bottom. Layer the tomato slices with basil leaves until you run out of tomatoes, then top it all with 1 cup mayo mixed with 1 cup shredded Cheddar cheese. Bake at 350F/180C for 30 minutes or until bubbly.
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What fun we had, long luxurious, humid hours on the terrace simply chatting. Because Becky is Southern to the bone, she has perfected the art of the “visit.” It’s a verb. Becky “visits,” which means sympathetic, truly interested questions about my life, corresponding tales about her life. With Becky, there is no pretense that life is perfect, that we don’t all struggle, and there is a tacit understanding that with enough warm, genuine love for one another, we can survive life. She is the most wonderful friend.
With Becky gone once more, it was time to head up to Jill and Joel’s for a glorious summer supper of rosemary-grilled pork tenderloin, potato salad, and my tomato-mozzarella salad with pesto. Molly had a little fun with that.
I love Jill and Joel for many reasons, but near the top of the list is the fact that they cook for me! Almost no one does, whether because I insist on everyone coming to my house, or for some other reason. Joel went all “awww, shucks” when I thanked him.
It’s such fun to visit their family, for a glimpse of life so very different from our own in London. Whilst Avery went through a spell of athletic activity — ice-skating and horseback riding — she was never one for competitive team sports. Jill’s two girls are just that, always dressed in comfy athletic wear and talking about their latest softball exploits. Such lovely girls. Molly acquired some pretty unusual skills at camp this year, namely making this dizzying little toy.
We didn’t even see Jane until dinner was long over, when she came in from softball trials tired and ravenous. Such great girls.
Then it was off to the Lyons’ last night for a very welcome grilled supper of salmon fillets and corn. What a cool way to do corn — peel away just the outer layers of husk and grill! The silks come away much more easily than on raw corn, and you don’t even need butter! But the real draw of the evening was spending time with the beautiful kids and cats (and Mike and Lauren, obviously!). Here is darling Elizabeth.
She is the most talkative two-and-a-half-year-old I have ever met, except for Avery! Full, charming sentences, and more than capable of holding her own with her two older siblings. John was, of course, a climbing frame for all three.
Their children call us, charmingly (as Becky’s girls do!) Miss Kristen and Mr John. It always takes some time for them to remember us from our last visit. About three minutes! And there was darling, darling Jessica, one of Avery’s first foster children.
And Libby, the tailless wonder cat.
To me, this photograph encompasses all that is the Lyons way of life: outdoorsy, casual, nature-loving, and happy to take in a kitty with no tail. They are a family that sits down to dinner every night, says grace, and settles back to enjoy one another’s company, and ours. We are so lucky to have them in our lives.
Even with all the activity, there is still time simply to sit (especially since we two have now done as much raking, weeding, stick-picking-up and telephoning experts to bring back Red Gate Farm). So we sit. There is the birdbath and the view to contemplate.
I take a stroll down to visit Dad in the pond, and with all the night rains we’ve been having, it’s up and running.
I peek into the chicken house, sadly empty this summer, and remember all the fun we had, the Year I Kept Chickens.
One sultry evening, our beloved friends Terry, Linda and Judy came to supper for what was essentially a “Thank you for helping Red Gate Farm survive the tornado of 2018.” There are no words for the hours, weeks, months that these friends spent standing in our place, while we watched helplessly from London.
We sat down to crab cakes and spirited conversation, everyone telling their personal story of where they were during the storm, and what life was like here in the aftermath. I remembered the carefully non-hysterical emails from Terry, detailing the progress of taking down trees, putting them through the chipper, stacking logs for the fireplace, meeting insurance people. We thought of jumping on a plane, but everyone assured us that as disastrous as the tornado had been, everyone was pulling together. In the face of such friendship, I can only tell myself that Terry’s twinkling eyes suggest that he, as a firefighter, engineer and all-round competent guy, he might have enjoyed himself just a little, once in awhile.
The following hot day brought a welcome summer treat: vichyssoise! There is nothing like cold, cold soup in this weather, and just the sight of my precious purple bowl gives me joy.
And that, my friends, brings you up to date! Tomorrow will see us in our car, lunches packed, podcasts downloaded, bags stuffed with presents brought from London, for The Great Road Trip of 2018, which quixotic project will see us driving 2500 miles in 10 days, to Indiana to see my mother for her birthday, to Iowa to see John’s mom, and then driving back. This will go down in history either as the awesomest idea ever, or a memory we just want to put in a deep, dark drawer, and get on a sensible airplane (or six) next summer. We’ll keep you posted!
So glad to get caught up! My sister & I have talked so I knew some PT it. I’m hoping your trip is wonderful & will go into the “what a great time we had!” Give your mom a big birthday hug from her baby sister! 😍
Thank you, Auntie L! Hugs were exchanged. How is Colorado? And yes, the Road Trip has been absolutely fabulous.
Kristin,
It’s time I write you. About 10 years ago, looking for a 70th birthday gift for my beloved mother in law, I remembered a wonderful clothing shop I once visited in Litchfield, Connecticut that stocked a beautiful selection of cashmere sweaters. As my mother in law was raised in Litchfield, I thought if I might find a nice present there, the connection to Litchfield would make the gift a bit special. Problem was, I could not remember the name of the store. Whatever words I put into the google search that day, led me to your blog, to an entry in which you referenced the store, R. Derwin Clothiers.
Your bio intrigued me. I am also a New Yorker, I worked for years in the NY art world, and I am an expat living in London with my family, and a foodie (though hard not to be in London). I left NYC in 1991. For the past 10 years I’ve been working at the V&A. I am now also working towards my PhD.
Over the years, I’d check into your blog to see what you and your family were up to, and oftentimes, to find an inspiring recipe. But my most recent overlap with your life/work did not come from the blog and this is why I thought to write you.
Briefly, the topic of my PhD focuses on an overlooked 19th century female photographer, a member of staff at the South Kensington Museum (now the V&A). She worked at the Museum from 1868 to 1891, the longest serving Official Museum Photographer at the Museum and possibly the first female Official Museum Photographer in Europe. I’m into the first year of research and I am looking at the different ways scholars have tackled the historiography of women artists. A conference I am organising with two other doctoral students on professional women artists will also touch upon this topic. I can’t remember how I found my way to your book Singlular Woman, but when I saw your name as co-editor, I figured it was time for me to write you.
Small world.
Erika Lederman
Dear Erika,
What an absolutely amazing note from you — the tentacles of R. Derwin are far-reaching indeed! Whilst showing a friend a jumper from them that I had visibly-mended, she mentioned that she went to high school with R. Derwin! Amazing. I am thrilled, of course, that you ran across Singular Women. That feels like a lifetime ago. I owned an art gallery in NYC for several years before we moved to London in 2005, and I showed almost exclusively women artists. It was a thrill. Last year my daughter and I curated a show at the Shirley Fiterman Art Center at the Borough of Manhattan Community College — we did include the work of several men, but it was dominated by women. I loved reading that you wanted to change your name to “LederPERSON.” I have raised a proper feminist in my daughter. She just received her degree at Oxford University with a very intriguing topic — female spiritualists in Memphis, TN, during the mid-19th century. I have enquired at the V&A to get in touch with you off the blog — let’s meet! I am interested to know how feminist historiography has shifted since the publication of my book in 2004. Looking forward to speaking with you! I am back in London after the summer away.