four very busy weeks
Well, it’s me, the original broken record. Another month has gone by, and yet again I’m enveloped in a 747 crossing the Atlantic! This time I have Avery beside me (well, actually to be perfectly honest we have an empty seat between us, very possibly the only empty seat in the entire plane, what luck), and we’re on our way to New York and Connecticut to spend six weeks.
John, sadly, has been left behind in order to prepare for and attend a long-awaited, seemingly forever-awaited meeting related to his plot of dirt. He’ll join us in about 10 days’ time, with, one hopes, good or at least encouraging news about his project.
Meanwhile, Avery and I are facing the rather daunting tasks of opening up Red Gate Farm, acquiring a rental car, unpacking all Avery’s stuff and repacking it for her summer in NYC, nodding our heads at the Fourth of July, and getting her settled in the city at her rented room. Then we’ll motor on downtown to see “Text/ure” together! This promises to be an event of momentous importance, a celebration of all the arduous work we put in over the last year, and a chance to share the joy, since of course I attended the opening all by myself in May. I promise a whole blog post devoted just to that marvelous evening, all the preparations in the week before, and then Avery’s and my tour of the exhibition together.
The last month in London has been characterized by even-more-than-usual contrasts of highs and lows. The lows are, of course, of a public and tragic nature: the truck attack at London Bridge, the shattering Grenfell Tower fire. The former disaster had immediate effects on our actual daily lives: the closing of streets, of our beloved Borough Market, of our adored Padella restaurant. Because nothing, absolutely NOTHING can keep Londoners down, however, the neighborhood gradually bounced back, while remembering the victims of the tragedy.
As we strolled around the market, spending as much money as possible to show our support of the farmers and merchants, we spotted an unbelievable sight. A t‑shirt from the obscure and very far-away Islesford Dock Restaurant in Maine! We stalked its wearer and accosted him. He turned out to be Justin of Bread Ahead, the bakery where I had my short-lived sourdough triumphs. “I was the head chef at Islesford for years!” Justin crowed. Incredible. One of those moments when life truly surprises you.
I’m getting ahead of myself. The month of June began auspiciously with my return from New York, very, very tired and oh-so-happy to be home. That very afternoon saw the inauguration of what I like to think of as the Great Parade To and From the Vet, as I took a taxi over to Clerkenwell to pick up Keechie from her stay in the Cattery. John had spent part of my absence in blissful talks with his Japanese architect in Basel and other parts of Switzerland, so poor Keechie, in need of daily medication for her brand-new thyroid condition, had to be imprisoned unwillingly with Drs Mark, Mary and Paisley in their eccentric and loving establishment. Boy, was she happy to get home.
Since then she’s been back for another set of blood tests, and poor Tacy has made several trips to have a little bump removed from inside her ear (several instances of scratching at said bump and then shaking her head madly having resulted in the flat’s looking like a crime scene). Thereupon, Tacy’s kidneys were discovered to have elevated, or depressed, something or other, necessitating more trips back and forth, whilst her ear required a very fetching little capelet, strangely appealing as an accessory.
In between ferrying all these cats to and from the doctor’s, I’ve had other adventures. A day in Barnes – a delicious and talkative lunch with my beloved ringing friend Trisha (I miss her so much), and then a whole afternoon with my favorite twins, “Frangus,” and their beautiful mother. What a perfect adventure, beginning with a precious music lesson in a jewel of a little brick house, then coffee and cakes at Gail’s, scenes of so many messy, joyous afternoons with the boys.
We happened to run into Trisha afterward, and she chatted with them about their frequent visits to St Mary’s to hear the bells. What happy memories of those Saturday mornings.
Then we drove through the incomparable Richmond Park for their weekly swimming lesson! They could not be cuter.
And the beautiful drive back through the park. “Look, Kristen,” Freddie told me earnestly. “The deer on this side of the car are spotted, and the deer on the OTHER side are plain.” He was right.
Tea with much-missed Elizabeth and a visit to our old home finished my visit to Barnes, always such an event of nostalgia for me. I texted John and Avery. “Am I the only one feeling terribly sentimental now?” “Yes,” they replied. They are compleat Banksiders.
One afternoon, out of my long-ago and misspent youth one summer in France, my lovely friend Karen popped over from Minneapolis. We sat feverishly talking for two straight hours, just enjoying the brilliance of a forever-friendship.
John and I made a day trip to see Avery, since I just couldn’t fathom either sending my NYC photos to her, or of waiting till the end of term to share them. I wanted to sit with her in person and pore over them all, so we did. In the Morse Bar at the Randolph! What a joy-filled afternoon that was.
Avery in turn shared with us two articles she’s written about “Text/ure” for the Oxford newspaper, the Cherwell. So impressive. She has so many words at her disposal!
We’ve had artistic interventions of an extraordinary nature. First is the new neighbor at Tate Modern next door, an installation of the word “Forward” three times in Russian. It is a thing of whimsy and fun, a climbing frame for children, a photographic frame for tourists.
The Royal Academy Summer Exhibition has opened, and as members, John and I were able to go early. As always at that show, fully 95% of the objects on display simply elude my field of vision. The brightly coloured, the figurative, the brash, these are invisible to me, in favor of intricate, monochromatic, repetitive gestural pieces alive with process. And interestingly, I was able to predict with 100% accuracy which rooms’ curators were women, and which artists were women. John and I laughed at the utter predictability of my taste, and in fact the shared taste of our family. We were pretty certain the three of us could go through the show and pick out the five or six pieces we would all want to own. Here are a couple. I restrained myself from remembering who the artists were, out of sheer temptation. This piece is a burned drawing.
And this one a very, very intricate watercolour.
And we made a purchase! Sara Dodd. We will get it in September, when the show is finished.
Avery and I have made an amazing studio visit to a fiber/embroidery artist in West Hampstead, Richard McVetie. Avery encountered his work on Instagram, and it was but the work of a moment to track him down and ask if we could come in admiring person. We both have an elusive set of ideas for a show we’d like to do in London: process, intricacy, precise materials, intimate gestures. Richard will most certainly come top of the list, when this project takes shape next fall somewhere, sometime.
Very possibly second on our list is an incredible textile artist called Katherine Taylor, a young woman who has just earned her degree from a London university (she has a show up in London now!).
She happens to be a fellow ringer with me at Foster Lane! Not only is she an artist, she is also a “Visible Mender,” which it turns out is a thing. The idea really appeals to me — instead of following our increasingly throwaway approach to culture, when things become torn, or broken, or motheaten, we should mend them, and not in a way that hides the original flaw or the mend, but in a way that celebrates the mend. Katherine is teaching me, and our mutual ringing friend Elizabeth, to mend things in the most loving, artistic way possible.
One of my favorite-ever woolen throws, an artifact of the Architectural Digest spread on our New York apartment, has been the victim of a terrible moth invasion. Its repair is at its infant stages.
The materials have often been rescued from dumpsters, or “tips” as they’re called here. So, recycling plus mending.
On the opposite end of the spectrum of life from the relaxing activities above, I’ve had a few very challenging bellringing experiences lately, one a gorgeous wedding (we climbed precariously to the church roof to enjoy the spectacle):
And then “Treble-Bobbing to Cambridge.” This Quarter Peal was so very difficult that for the first time ever, I didn’t even mark the event with a photograph. I’m not sure I would have shown up on film. It’s the most maddening skill of one blow in first, one in second, another in first, then up to third, fourth, back down to third, up to fifth, then six, back down to fifth… I kid you not. All memorized, for 52 minutes in a row. Absolute madness. I do not know how I survived, but of course the church and its tower are beloved to me, anyway.
I’ve been cooking, of course. I came home from NYC with a sheaf of recipes under my arm, reminders of a simply incredible evening spent with my dear friend David Rosengarten, learning all his Chinese secrets. More on this tutorial when I write up my New York adventures, but suffice it to say for the moment that the dishes are unbelievable. “Don’t you feel you’re in a Chinese restaurant, Kristen?” David asked as we tucked in. And I did. You will love them too.
You would be so proud of me! I followed his recipes to the letter. A rarity for me. And it was worth it. “Velveted” Chicken, and Spicy Shrimp.
Then, into our peaceful lives arrived my darling sister Jill and her lovely family, for a week’s intensive, ridiculously filled-up tourism and family time together.
It was Joel’s birthday!
They came to ringing practice with me! My God, it was unbelievably hot.
Both girls had a go at the rope!
We had such fun. The cast courts at the V&A!
My darling friend Sue, who heartlessly abandoned me to move to San Francisco, just happened to be in town with her husband Paul and so naturally, they came to dinner!
In addition to the adventures we all shared together, they somehow also managed to see the Natural History Museum, the Tower of London, Westminster Abbey, the Cabinet War Rooms, Windsor Castle, Stonehenge and Bath! I’m sure I’m missing something, but I bet they were pooped when they finally settled on their plane to go home. The trip of a lifetime, and such fun for us all to be together, on our home turf in London for the first time.
I’ve had my last Home-Start visit for the season (only one more to come before “closing” with this family). I’ve made my last recipe for Cooking Club, a delicious tray of Rice Krispie treats.
And then I sliced off the end of my thumb, whilst chopping mint for Cooking Club (I didn’t get to go). Drama! Talk about a crime scene. I have since learned that thumbs are extraordinarily “vascular,” which means they contain unheard of numbers of veins, and as such produce an unholy amount of blood when cut open. John carried me along to the hospital for an afternoon at A&E. First go!
What an idiot I felt!
Second go, later in the afternoon (with a lovely sling to go with it).
Finally day two, after another afternoon at another hospital, the thumb was bearably wrapped.
I felt rather sorry for myself, and all the more so for missing my two last playgroups. My friends at Mumspace sent me a lovely consolation video!
I missed one last Sunday ringing. I went along for coffee with my ringing friends anyway, knowing how much I shall miss them in the coming weeks.
We managed to pop along to the Globe for a raucous and uproarious “Twelfth Night.” Go! It’s such fun.
And then, not so much fun as incredibly intense and thought-provoking, a standing-room-only, seven-hour marathon “Angels in America” at the National. I went to the first half and John and Avery to that twice PLUS the second half. Mind-blowing exploration of the first months of the AIDS crisis. Heart-stopping stuff — Andrew Garfield is incandescent — if you can possibly get even one ticket, standing up.
After a frenzied last afternoon of laundry, deciding what to take, packing and unpacking and repacking, we were ready to go.
This evening will see us, post-flight, rushing in a car service from JFK to RGF, and a sigh of relief at being “home.” More from America soon — a full-scale report of the opening in May and Avery’s visit with me tomorrow!
That’s why I recognized the name Katherine Taylor, from ringing! I think her work is sensitive and very compelling–love the idea of mending to improve a thing. Sigh. You know such interesting people.
xxx, John’s Mom
Hello Sue and Paul. San Fran certainly seems to agree with you!
Wow! What a month. It didn’t feel that crazy as it went along but looking back? Whew! xo me
Right? It was insane. Sitting quietly here on my Red Gate Farm terrace it doesn’t seem possible last month could have been so crazy! John’s Mom, we need to get you a Katherine Taylor! Me too.