the arrival of the mothers
There comes a moment, every summer, when we’ve truly settled in. Tricia has brought her traditional herby centerpiece, bless her heart. We’ve spent the first few weeks settling in, seeing all the neighbors, playing tennis, cooking, swimming, rereading all the summer books we’ve been thinking about all winter. I catch David in a rare moment of relaxation, reading by the pond, and this image seems to epitomize summer.
There’s time for an afternoon photoshoot with Avery, trying to capture her 14-year-old self. Our house is peppered with framed series of photographs of her as a little girl, making faces, being silly. It has been a few years since I sat her down to be captured, and it was more like working with a professional model than a child. Times have changed.
She has opinions now on the photographs I take! “Delete! Delete! I look demonic!” I have to be strong. But there are some we agree on.
We’ve had plenty of hot and humid tennis games, accompanied inevitably by the Grumpy Old Men At the Tennis Court, whose grumpiness seemed to have been ratcheted up recently. One morning last week, after a heavy rain the night before, we arrived at the courts to discover that they had eschewed the shady court out of fear of its puddles, and were installed on the far court in the blazing sun. A recipe for disaster. All four of them spent the whole morning wondering under their collective, grumpy and highly audible breaths.
“Those young people might not want that shady court, they might rather have a sunny court… we should ask them if they want to move to our court, here in the sun.”
“Of course not, you fool, if they did, they’d move to the center court… Nobody wants to play in the sun. Shut up and serve.”
There has been the chance for Anne to bond with her kitty niece, Jessamy, here at Camp Curran.
I’ve had time to recreate — with my own quirky additions — the breakfast strata concept that Alyssa and I inhaled during our jaunt to Beecher’s Cheese Shop in Manhattan. I have to warn you: it’s very rich. But what a celebration of savoury.
Breakfast Strata
(serves 8)
12 slices old-fashioned white bread, cut into 1‑inch cubes
1 lb pork sausage
1/2 lb chestnut mushrooms, chopped
1 Padron pepper, sliced thin
handful small heirloom tomatoes, cut in half
1 cup cheese curds (or pizza mozzarella, cut in bite-size pieces)
1 cup shredded Cheddar cheese
4 eggs
2 cups half and half
Butter a 9 x 13 baking dish. Place the bread in a large bowl. Saute the sausage and break it up into small pieces. Add the chopped mushrooms to the sausage and saute until soft.
Add the sausage, mushrooms, pepper, tomatoes and two cheeses to the bread in the bowl and mix well. Beat the eggs briefly and then whisk in the half and half. Scatter the bread mixture in the baking dish and pour the egg mixture over. Bake at 350F/180C for 40 minutes or until egg mixture is set. Serve warm.
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All these activities are compelling and delicious, to be sure. It’s our summer.
But it’s all a bit of a waiting game, until the mothers come.
Of course in summers gone by it was the mothers and the fathers. In those wonderful days we reverted to being the children again, with the fathers fighting over who would carry heavy bags of groceries and pay the dinner checks, and the mothers bringing entertaining gifts from their bags for the granddaughters. When the fathers were here, they ran errands: to the hardware store for the screwdrivers they thought we needed, to the balloon store to carry home dozens of balloons for birthday parties, to the liquor store for a special Scotch to accompany a chess game. They came with us to the pool to swim laps and toss little kids to and fro in the water, and to provide endless quarters for the snack machine.
I hope sincerely that I appreciated those days and summers with our fathers.
Everything changes. Our mothers are examples to me of The Right Stuff. While life changes and children get taller and the fathers are no longer with us, the mothers still pack their suitcases and take endless flights to arrive at Red Gate Farm, arms outstretched, smiles glowing, bags still packed with homemade cookies, piles of hilarious old family photographs, ready to have a good time. Dinner conversations are sprinkled with stories and memories of the fathers, and it is as if they were still with us, for scattered moments.
The important thing is to make sure we appreciate our families as they are now.
My, how we prepared for John’s mom’s arrival! We became the Compleat Cleaning Team, scrubbing every inch of the house, putting up the new clothesline so I could wash and hang out the ancient red rug in the guest room that always takes a bit of a beating during the busy summers. Especially with a toilet-paper-obsessed kitten around.
Finally everything was bleached, Hoovered, mopped and folded. And we were off to the sweet little municipal airport to fetch Nonna. With all the dreadful international airports we seem to find ourselves in, I love this little local one, nestled under blue skies in a cozy hollow of green hills, always smelling of new carpet, with one unintimidating arrival gate which seems to emit only happy people being reunited with grandchildren! And so we found her, gathered her up and brought her home to relax with a glass of wine and enjoy the special brand of ease and comfort that this old house seems to offer everyone.
And we had such a good dinner… there is just nothing like fresh fried haddock, with homemade tartare sauce. John’s mom asks me to tell you that although she always says this, it was “the best haddock ever.”
With sweetcorn — plenty of butter! — and broccoli, sauteed in olive oil, it was the perfect summer supper to welcome her.
I love the feeling I get when my mother-in-law is safely under my roof. I love her settling into her cozy red room with the green glass lamp, the table piled with tantalizing books she might like to leaf through before going to sleep, a selection of little presents gathered in London and New York — a jar of ras el hanout, a funny mug with bicycles painted on it. I went through boxes and boxes of photos from the barn and assembled a little pile, full of memories.
It’s one of the unexpected benefits of getting older. We are finally able to give a little bit of comfort, a little coziness, some cherishing, to our parents, who have given so much to us. A place to come and relax.
And the next evening brings MY mother, all the way from Indiana. I know she was a bit intimidated by the idea of travelling without my dad, for the first time. A first time to check in by herself, to handle the luggage, to be in charge. But she handled everything with aplomb, with my brother’s help, and I was so glad to get her here, safe and sound.
They arrived with Jill and her family, for an evening of trampolining…
And a dinner of beef fillets with a buttery, mushroomy Duxelles.
Here’s how my conversations go with my niece Molly.
Molly: “Aunt Kristen, how old were you when you were my size?”
“Well, how old are YOU, Molly?”
(she holds up fingers) “Two.”
“Then I think I was two when I was your size.”
Molly considers. “No, I think YOU were ONE.”
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The mothers arrived. All was right with the world.
I love this post and the pictures, but what you’ve left out is your unique recipe for making the fun that we ALWAYS have at Red Gate Farm. How DO you do that? Everyone is smarter, cooler, faster, better at your table … and so well cared for.
Thanks for the memories …
You are too sweet. There’s no recipe. You guys provide the ingredients and I just improvise.
What a perfect visit — and the best weather possible! I just wish I could have spent more time with Rosemary, but the birthday party was such a whirlwind. The food was amazing, as always, and the gifts so thoughtful and clever. If only everyone could see the amazing crossword puzzle you, John and Avery concocted for me! The most clever clues ever! Thanks for everything, all of you! And much love!
I agree that it was a perfect visit! We all seemed to have just the right amount of energy and enthusiasm for each part of the visit… and I agree the party was amazing! Of course it helps that ALL your favorite foods are my favorite party foods… the stuffed mushrooms and chicken livers… OH! Mostly we loved seeing you happy and enjoying your day. The puzzle was a total joy from start (us!) to finish (you!). Much love to you too, Mom.